May 30, 2016

Things I learned in my 10 years of Marriage

I believe in the eternal union of husband and wife. In the beginning, when God created the man and woman, He blessed them, saying, "Be fruitful, and multiply.." (Genesis 1:22). God Himself, married Adam and Eve. Therefore, marriage is ordained of God.


After serving a full-time mission for our church,  I prayed earnestly to Heavenly Father to guide me during this critical time of my life. As days passed by, it became clearer and clearer to me what should I do next. Marrying in the temple became a distinct decision to me.


I chose to marry Kevron because it is to him that I have this strong feeling to raise a family. I have no doubts in my heart. I would love to be his help meet, a companion for life and forever. I have a strong faith and trust in the Lord's timing that things will work out between us as we came from different parts of the world. I am from the Philippines and he is from USA.

I was not scared at all to leave the Philippines, my family, friends and the things that I love about the place where I was raised to marry my Husband. I am ready to build my own family.

In the Bible, Jesus himself taught the importance of marriage and relationship of husband and wife. The Pharisees inquired of Him saying, "Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?". Jesus answered, "Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,...He continued, "For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife : and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. The Pharisees inquired again, "Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?. Jesus replied to them" Moses because the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives:but from the beginning it was  not so." Matthew 19:3-8

Learning is a long process. In the course of my marriage, I have learned:

1. Having a place of our own gave us privacy, freedom and opportunities to grow.

2. The first five years of marriage is  hard. During this time, we learned about each other's personality. It was a huge adjustment.

3. You are your spouse's number one supporter and fan. Whatever pursuit of learning we both engage ourselves in, we support each other. We both take the time to talk about it and witness it. We are each other's inspiration.

4. Keeping Christ as the center of our relationship. This helps us focus on our eternal perspective. Whatever storm and calamity that come to us, hope through Christ is a source of strength and direction. Whatever insight and spiritual realization we both have, we share them to each other. I am grateful for the opportunity we have to change and improve our lives. This is only through Jesus Christ.

5. Saying I'm Sorry . We commit mistakes and have weaknesses. Kev and I are good at this. It softens the heart and helps in the healing process. Plus it is an important step in the process of repentance.


6. Communication is vital. Kev and I try our best to be updated about each other's activities. I love it when we talk about life, our ups and downs, feelings, hopes and goals. We specially take the time to talk about our relationship with each other.

7. Our marriage is the most important relationship. My priority is my spouse. My marriage is more important than the relationship that I have with friends, co -workers, hobbies, parents and even my children. My spouse is my partner in building a family. Whatever I do, it will affect my spouse's life or welfare and vice versa. No matter what happens, my loyalty is to my Husband.

8. Dating, having time together and sense of humor. These add flavor to our marriage. It strengthens our relationship. Life goes by fast and we arrive in  new circumstances and new experiences. We get to continue in learning more about each other. Let romance continue and enjoy each other's company.

9.  Be each other's shelter from the storm. Kevron is my very best friend! I can go to him for strength during my challenges, trials and problems.

10. Traditions. I am very excited about establishing our own traditions. We choose the ones that we both enjoy doing. Example: hiking, camping and adventures. I am glad that we both have the same likes.

11. Understanding  each other's expressions of love. I express my love to my Husband verbally, giving him praises and appreciation and being grateful for him. Kev is the same to me.

I love my Husband with my whole heart. And when I define it, I am thinking of the eternal welfare of his soul.  For me, this is true love.


Irene
   






May 20, 2016

Some things today

Hi. I'm back. I am just with Emma right now. The boys went to the "Father and Son" camping activity of the ward. We were all so busy before they left yet we are happy. Miggie was so excited.!! He was already seated inside the car but then he went out just to say, "Mommy, I'm gonna go camping today! I love you! Buh-bye :)". Emma and I gave  each of them a hug after Kev said a prayer and then they took off. 

Now, I finished the first two sets of my homework. I still need to fold the clothes that's  pilled up downstairs. Anyway, while doing my homework, Emma was writing her third story.  Here it is:



                            


She did it by herself. I am happy to see her progress in writing using her own imaginations. And then we both drew a cat. We had fun drawing and coloring Garfield!




-Irene














May 10, 2016

Press On

I am actually eager to blog our Family Home Evening lesson today and those other important matters that Kev and I think that are of urgency and have great impact in the development of our precious children.

First, I would like to define a little what is Family Home Evening (FHE for short). FHE is a wonderful opportunity for families to gather together at least once a week to strengthen each other by learning the gospel, sharing one's thoughts and feelings and of course simply enjoy each other and have or do fun activity together. 

Kev and I felt impressed to pick the topic of "pornography". This epidemic have destroyed individuals and families. It is everywhere. Kev and I would like to protect our children from this awful monster. To simply explain it to our kids, we showed the video below. And then we had a simple discussion.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UNeYQA3ZeX8

We have the so called "Brain Decision System". This is centered in the brain which is responsible for the decisions we make, good or bad. Our brain forms our habits. When we decide to do something, and then do it again, and again, again and again then it will become a habit. It is important that we build healthy habits.

10,000 hours

The brain is a habit forming machine.  It forms habits as a way to become efficient.  Layer upon layer of neurons and pathways are created each time we do something.  Some claim that when you do a thing for 10,000 hours, you become a master of it.  Some things we do for that period of time, we would rather not become masters of.

To overcome entrenched habits, we must replace them.  It's not enough to try and erase those pathways (and it would take too long).  The brain is really good at making habits, so lets use that to our advantage.



As parents, we think that it is important that we take the time to help our kids develop good habits while little. We definitely have a big role on this. These habits become their character, their core personality. We are advised to "train up a child in the way  he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it" -Proverbs 22:6.  Kev and I have great hope for our children.

Reminders

Keeping well-placed reminders of our daily activities can help us form new habits.






We posted the reminders in our bedroom so we can be good examples to the kids and that they know that we are also followers. 

Irene and Kev







May 8, 2016

Happy Mother's Day 2016

I can still remember so clearly in my mind and heart my prayer to Heavenly Father when I was 18 years old which was... to grant my desire to have  my own children someday.

Sometimes, when I look back, now that I am a mother of three active, beautiful children, I am amazed as it happened so quickly like a dream. Life is short for time is quick in passing.


I am deeply grateful and joyful for being a mother. My prayer now, is to be able to teach and help my children walk in the ways of truth in all the energy of my soul. 

I received the following letters from my wonderful Husband and sweet children namely: Veyron, 9 years old, Emma, 7 years old and Miggie, 5 years old. Thank you, guys!








I love receiving notes from my Husband. How sweet are thy words unto my taste! yea, sweeter than honey unto my mouth! (Psalm 119:103)


Veyron is like his Daddy... a man of  few words. When he speaks, he mean it!


Emma is very expressive of her feelings. She is such a sweet girl!


My Miggie, is my kid who up until now calls me Mama. He is so cute and always tells me "I love you" like a million times a day :) Emma helped him write this letter.