Apr 29, 2016

Finding Joy in the Journey






Joy is cheerfulness. Delight. Gladness. Happiness. Pleasure.

As a result of Adam and Eve's partaking of the forbidden fruit in the Garden of Eden, unto the woman God said, "I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee." (Genesis 3:16)

And unto Adam He said, "Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and has eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life; thorns also and thistles shall it bring forth to thee; and thou shalt eat the herb of the field; In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; for out of it wast thou taken: for dust thou art; and unto dust shalt thou return." (Genesis 3:17-19)

[So] After Adam and Eve had partaken of the forbidden fruit they were driven out of the Garden of Eden, to till the earth. (2 Nephi 2:19)

Adam and Eve's transgression resulted in them being translated from immortal to mortal and enabled them to obey the Lord's commandment to multiply and replenish the earth. "And they have brought forth children; yea, even the family of all the earth." (2 Nephi 2:20)

Building a family is not easy. It requires the faith, patience, commitment, resilience, physical and spiritual endurance of both husband and wife. Fathers or Husbands are primarily responsible in providing the basic necessities of life of the family. Mothers or wives have the sacred role of bringing forth children into this world. Fulfilling these obligations can be stressful and tiring.

Life is not easy whether you are married or single, male or female, old or young.  We need to work hard in order to live.

I would like to categorize the adversities that one might encounter: (List may not be completely inclusive)

PHYSICAL ADVERSITY. Because our body is not perfect, we are subject to diseases and illnesses. One might experience chronic pain, fatigue, illness, disorders and diseases.

MENTAL ADVERSITY. I can name some like depression, Bi-Polar, Paranoia, anxiety disorder, schizophrenia, amnesia, traumatic brain injury (TBI) and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

EMOTIONAL ADVERSITY. Life is a learning process. Forgiving yourself and others can be very painful for you. Loss of a loved one is definitely heart-breaking. Accepting failures and dealing with changes can cause deep sorrow.

SOCIAL ADVERSITY includes loneliness.

SPIRITUAL ADVERSITY. Sin is a big stumbling block to our progression. Weaknesses can affect our focus of becoming like the Savior Jesus Christ.

FINANCIAL ADVERSITY includes loss of a job and debts.

 Joy comes naturally during the easy times of life and it takes effort to find moments of happiness during adversity. Finding joy in the journey is learning to appreciate anything. It is believing that life is a beautiful thing, that it is a wonderful opportunity for us to learn, grow and enjoy the vast creations of God. No matter what is our circumstance, we can always find a reason to smile or be to be grateful.  During the tough times, remember the times when  you were happy. It will help you accept the challenge/s you are facing, and then you will have peace and gain personal encouragement.

When I was little, I learned this primary song in our church that helped me appreciate life.



Finally, as children of a loving Father in Heaven which make us brothers and sisters, we can help each other in our quest to finding joy in our journey. By exercising our faith and praying for others during his or her adversity, could I believe will find a way to lift him up thus, resulting to joy.

-Irene










Apr 17, 2016

A Decade of Love on April 13, 2016



1. What has brought you closer this year?
-The accomplishment of helping Irene fulfill her dream of going to school and exercising one of her core strengths of uplifting and helping others. 

2. What is your favorite memory of this year together?
-Our epic Super Hike around the Three Sisters Volcano.


3. If you could relive any day from this past year, what would it be?
-The second to last day of our Three Sisters Super Hike. It was the most difficult yet fulfilling as we traverse the awesome scenery of high mountain passes, of beautiful, obsidian, glittered trails, and red painted rock formations to finish the day in each others arms enjoying our blissful lassitude.

4. What's been the best thing about being married?
-Having a Best Friend! (Loyal, Trustworthy, Dependable, Good Listener, Exemplar) and Creating a Family!


5. Anything shocking you've learned about your spouse?
-I was surprised to learn that Kevron has an incredible technological abilities. (Irene)
-What amazed me about Irene is, her going from not being able to do much in a new country to being completely independent in such an impressive rate of time. (Kev)

6. What is a bonus quality you observed in your spouse that you did not know about until this year?
-I have seen how earnest Kevron is in teaching our kids all the things that he knows. (Irene)
-I have proven that uplifting others is among Irene's core strengths. (Kev)

7. If you could do anything different, what would you do?
-Nothing. We take every thing as a learning experience.

8. What have you learned from your spouse in the last 12 months? 
-I learned a lot about medical terms, methods of curing cancer that involves viruses. I learned that medical assistants run a clinic. 
-I learned about building a personalized greenhouse and the plants you could grow in it.

9. How have your feelings changed in this year together?
-We both feel more confident in Irene's abilities after her battles. I definitely feel that I am a very strong help meet to Kevron in all aspect of life. I really appreciate Kevron's love for my family. (Irene)
-I feel like I appreciate Irene more when I see her selflessness and dedication in serving our  kids, her parents and others. (Kev)

10. What is something that you have done that has worked, and really made a difference in your marriage, that you would give as advice to be successful to others on their wedding day?
-Both can't give up!


-Kevron and Irene









Apr 10, 2016

Filled by the Spirit

Today, we received one of the sincerest epistles from my parents. We felt the spirit so strong that I was encouraged to account it here. Those words of Nephi denote my parents  utterances to us their children (this includes the sons-in-law).

"Wherefore, I, Nephi, did exhort them to give heed unto the words of the Lord; yea, I did exhort them with all the energies of my soul, and with all the faculty which I possessed, that they would give heed to the word of God and remember to keep His commandments in all things." - 1 Nephi 15:25

I know that one day, I would hear their voices no more for we will all pass this mortal probation. But their words definitely serve as living testimony of their faith in God.




Dear Family,  

     As parents, we feel that it is our timely opportunity and great responsibility to share with you our hopes, desires and testimonies of the gospel of Jesus Christ.   Especially now that we are growing older and older, time for us is getting shorter and shorter.  But it's not too late in terms of the gospel of our Lord, Jesus Christ.  There is always room for improvement and progress.  Every day is a new day.  We can engage ourselves in many new little things every day that will make us happy and lively. It is our testimony that the gospel is the right and best way to return to our Heavenly Father in the Celestial Kingdom!

     We are so inspired recently by the words of our living prophets and apostles during this 186 th April General Conference of our Church.  Please always read and we encourage you all to reread and review these specific talks which will be our daily guide for a happy living:

1)  "Choices"  by President Thomas S. Monson
2)  "Fathers"  by Elder Todd Christofferson
3)  "In Praise of Those Who Save" by President Dieter F. Uchtdorf
4)  Concluding Remarks of Elder Jeffrey R. Holland - Sunday concluding session which you have just seen that Sunday,  April 10,2016

     Actually, all the conference talks and addresses were very inspiring and we can all learn from them and of course, need is to apply their teachings and doctrines in our own lives and families.  That is our goal, as parents - application of gospel principles learned in this general conference.

1)  On "Fathers"  -  We believe that   "by divine design,  Fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families."  We believe that in their complementary family duties,  "Fathers and Mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners".  We believe that far from being superfluous, Fathers are unique and irreplaceable.

       We apologize to you all, that sometimes, we interfere in your family life.  Though our intentions are good, papa and I realized that the results of these interferances are not always positive.  So we would like to improve on this and make firm.

  President Uchtdorf taught :  "As we emulate the Savior's love,  He will surely bless and prosper our righteous efforts to save our marriages and strengthen our families."  This is our lifetime goal....

       Quotations to remember from President Uchtdorf which papa and I have always been practicing in our marriage.  Sometimes we're short sighted but still we keep on moving, keep going and keep doing in spite of our personal weaknesses because we believe, that with God, all things are possible:

1)  "In God's plan of happiness, we are not so much looking for someone perfect but for a person with whom, throughout a lifetime, we can join efforts to create a loving, lasting, and more perfect relationship.  That is the goal".

2)  "Those who save their marriages understand that this pursuit takes time, patience, and above all, the blessings of the Atonement of Jesus Christ..."

3)  "Great marriages are built brick by brick, day after day, over a lifetime."

4)  "Happy marriages are meant to last forever!"  So, Be  happy!

5)  "Husbands,  astonish your wife by doing things that make her happy!"

6)  "Work each day to make your marriage stronger and happier!"

7)  "The great enemy of charity is Pride."  Pride is one of the biggest reasons marriages and families struggle!"  Pride may be a common human failing,  But it is not part of our spiritual heritage and it has no place among holders of the priesthood of God".

8)  Set aside pride!

9)  Build bridges; don't destroy them!

10)  Even when you are not at fault -- perhaps especially when you are not at fault -- "LET LOVE CONQUER PRIDE!"

     We pray and hope that you will continue to look after the good things we have done for you from your childbirth to your adulthood.  Do not look at our imperfections but continue your loving and understanding attitude towards us, your aging parents...  Remember,  time is of the essence for us, our days are numbered.  Papa and I would like to be happy and lively during the remaining years of our lives, and that's also our desire for your families!

    The devil will continue to tempt and challenge our families,  but the same,  we're on the Lord's side and know that the adversary will never,  never triumph over the  infinite and intimate atonement of our Lord, Jesus Christ which is always in our hearts and mind!  Jesus Christ is our firm foundation and we know that He will never, never, forsake us,  in the name of Jesus Christ...
Amen.

 Lovingly yours,

Papa Rolly and Mommy Trudz


I am so touched and is humbled down by my parents' recognition that although they are older than us and had more experience, they recognize that they are not perfect. I know that Heavenly Father will grant the desires of their hearts.

 Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of FAITH, PRAYER, REPENTANCE, FORGIVENESS, RESPECT, LOVE, COMPASSION, WORK, and WHOLESOME RECREATIONAL ACTIVITIES.  (The Family: A Proclamation to the World)

Love you so much Papa and Mommy! Thank you for everything :)

-Irene

Apr 9, 2016

Do your best and God will do the "rest"

Before the end of this day, though I am feeling weary, my spirit tells me to account my spiritual thoughts for this day. That consoling phrase of the Savior Jesus Christ is ringing into my ears, I quote: "Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest" (Matthew 11:28)

I am speaking as a wife and mother. Understanding the weight and fulfilling the demands of motherhood, with the addition of the responsibilities and duties as a wife, together, are truly great yet highly significant. These require of our  whole being, our physical strength and spiritual will power.

I myself admits that I would occasionally feel "heavy ladened". Today was one of them. In my mind and heart, I desire to do all that I can to help my children walk in the ways of truth. The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. Nevertheless, the promise of the Savior to grant us relief during this time of weariness and strain is available to us. We enjoy His blessings of peace of mind and comfort. These are huge benefits from fulfilling our demanding yet sacred tasks. In Him we find these "rests" to the very depth of our souls.  How wonderful that is! And I delight on this!






It was a great pleasure spending time with them at the Oregon Zoo today!  

-Irene

Apr 5, 2016

One year older and wiser, too... Happy Birthday, Veyron! 9th :)



Where did the time go? I can't believe how fast kids grow. Looking back, I remember how anxious I was to listen to his heartbeat. I was hoping that it is perfect and fine and it was! Kev and I were both teary eyed. I was so amazed and joyful! I can't believe that I am going to be a mother...that I am going to have my very own baby! How wonderful that is!

Although Kev and I were so poor, we never hesitated and doubted to get pregnant or start a family. We know that the commandment to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force. As for me, I believe that  our main purpose as husband and wife is to help Heavenly father accomplish His work which is "to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of men". This is a very sacred responsibility entrusted to us by the Deity.

Our Veyron was a huge blessing to our young married life. It was because of him that we were able to overcome the challenges of our marriage. Veyron has given us plenty of opportunities to use our minds and talents, grow in love and service and mature in the gospel together.

When Veyron was starting to say more words when he was one and half years old, he started to have a condition where he would involuntarily bite his tongue while sleeping. We took him to his Pediatrician to get his ideas and opinion regarding the situation.  Although he does not know the cause of it, he prescribed an antibiotic thinking it would heal the wounds on Vey's tongue. It did not heal because he keeps on biting it uncontrollably...muchly! We gave him the antibiotics for two weeks hoping for a miracle. I remember my poor baby bleeding and can't eat anything and could not sleep well. We took him to a different Doctor for another opinion. He prescribed a different antibiotics, an anti-fungus this time. But it just made it worst. Kev and I tried different ways to prevent Veyron from biting his tongue but we were only moderately successful. Not completely. The tip of his tongue was so infected that when he bites it, the tissue would come off. We took him to a children's hospital where they did A LOT of blood work for many different tests. They found out it was a very strong bacteria and his Doctor prescribed a very strong antibiotic. It finally got rid of the infection but he continued biting his tongue.  It was frustrating! I was so worried about Veyron's speech because he stopped talking. We were both so tired and restless from those sleepless nights. Oh, my poor baby!

After six months, Veyron was still biting his tongue but it was not as frequent as before but  the bitings all in all created a big damage to the apex of his tongue.

When we had Emma, our second child, she started to have the same tongue-biting problem. Also before she turned two. When we moved to Oregon in 2009, their new Pediatrician recommended us to go to the university sleep specialist. He did a test where Emma would sleep with a bunch of sensors connected to her brain. They determined it was not seizure but they still did not know what it is. After the Doctor did some research, she found out that it was a rare condition. There's no cure but they will out grow it and they ALL did! Yes, all three of them: Vey, Emma and Miggie had it. Sadly, Vey's was worst.

Veyron is a strong boy! He has grown A LOT in the past two years. He continuous to make strides in his communication, his math, his organizational skills and being responsible. He is quiet but observant. He knows what he wants. And he also tries to be a leader in the family.

We love our Veyron so much!

-Irene

Apr 3, 2016

What does the Savior's life mean to you?

I have been meaning to blog  my thoughts and feelings for Jesus Christ. Recently, we just celebrated the Easter. It is an important event for Christians where they recognize Jesus Christ as Savior and Redeemer of mankind.

I would like to extend some questions and invite you to carefully study them in your minds. Which accounts from the Savior's life are specially meaningful to you? In what ways can we show the Lord that we love Him?


Even before the coming of Jesus Christ into this world, his life was foreseen and foretold by ancient prophets. For example, Isaiah in the bible exclaimed:



“He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief. …
“… Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows. …
“He was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities. …
“He was oppressed, and he was afflicted, yet he opened not his mouth: he is brought as a lamb to the slaughter” (Isaiah 53:3–5, 7).

King Benjamin in the Book of Mormon prophesied: “For behold, the time cometh, and is not far distant, that with power, the Lord Omnipotent who reigneth, who was, and is from all eternity to all eternity, shall come down from heaven among the children of men, and shall dwell in a tabernacle of clay, and shall go forth amongst men, working mighty miracles, such as healing the sick, raising the dead, causing the lame to walk, the blind to receive their sight, and the deaf to hear, and curing all manner of diseases.
“And he shall cast out devils, or the evil spirits which dwell in the hearts of the children of men.
“And lo, he shall suffer temptations, and pain of body, hunger, thirst, and fatigue, even more than man can suffer, except it be unto death; for behold, blood cometh from every pore, so great shall be his anguish for the wickedness and the abominations of his people.
“And he shall be called Jesus Christ, the Son of God, the Father of heaven and earth, the Creator of all things from the beginning; and his mother shall be called Mary” (Mosiah 3:5–8).
All these ancient revelations about Him were fulfilled. One of my favorite accounts of His life was when his earthly parents Mary and Joseph found him in the temple conversing with the doctors. They realized Jesus was not with them on their journey back home from Jerusalem. They went back to Jerusalem and looked for Jesus. After 3 days they found him in the temple. They were amazed and Mary said unto him " Son, why hast thou thus dealt with us? behold, thy father and I have sought thee sorrowing.” Jesus answered her, "  “Wist ye not that I must be about my [Heavenly] Father’s business?” (Luke 2:48–49


I am really impressed by Jesus' understanding of his tasks from Heavenly Father at a very young age. He was only 12 years old at this time. We can also note that Mary and Joseph had been good parents to him. “And the child grew, and waxed strong in spirit, filled with wisdom: and the grace of God was upon him” (Luke 2:40)
Jesus' commitment and obedience to Heavenly Father are truly incredible! “I do nothing of myself,” He declared, “but as my Father hath taught me, I speak these things. … I do always those things that please him” (John 8:28–29).
Jesus is such a great example of faith and determination of doing the will of Heavenly Father. He is my inspiration of courage! He is consistent and firm in the faith! He is valiant and true to his testimony and covenants! His love and reverence for Heavenly Father is deep! Jesus lived a perfect life. Therefore, we must build our foundation upon Him... that when the devil shall send forth his mighty winds, yea, his shafts in the whirlwind, yea, when all his hail and his mighty storm shall beat upon you, it shall have no power over you to drag you down to the gulf of misery and endless wo, because of the rock upon which ye are built, which is a sure foundation, a foundation whereon if men build they cannot fall. (Helaman 5:12)
Jesus is the Master Teacher. He has spent his life teaching people...basically how to gain eternal life or that life that the Father have. He is famous for the parables he taught the people. He is known for his sermon on the Mount. He only not taught the people in words but his actions are evidence of his love for them. He spent His life serving others. He healed the sick, the dead He raised, He caused the lame to walk, the blind to see and cured all manner of diseases. His heart was full of compassion. 
Jesus words are life to me! They are so powerful that it penetrates the depth of my heart causing me to reflect and improve myself. One day, the apostles asked Him, "Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?" Jesus in reply to this inquiry called a little child and set him in their midst saying... "Verily I say unto you, Except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven. Whosoever therefore shall humble himself as this little child, the same is greatest in the kingdom of heaven." (Matthew 18:3-4) This is such a great reminder for me and a great source of comfort for me. Humility is one of the noblest characteristics of Jesus. Humility open doors for understanding the will of God. It is submissiveness to His commandments.

I remember that time when He washed the feet of His apostles. He taught them "Verily, verily, I say unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord; neither he that is sent greater than he that sent him." (John 13:16)



My reverence and respect for Jesus Christ are deeper and stronger. I am very grateful for His life! I owe Him my life. It is because of him that I have happiness, peace and comfort. He has given me hope and opportunities to become my best self and reach my potential because of the sacrifice he has done for me. He suffered and died for me so I can have the blessings of eternities. 


           "What are your feelings as you ponder the Savior's sacrifice for you?"

-Irene




For my soul delighteth in the song of the heart

These are my saving songs during the hardest and craziest times of my life. I lived in them. I found comfort and inspiration from them. When I want to feel the spirit, I just relax and listen to them then I feel restful and quiet, remembering the release from the pains of yesterdays. 

                                         I am amazed when sunlight streams so fine
                           I am amazed how low His light can shine
The angels fall around me to the very depth of my need
I am amazed at His tender mercies over me
I am alive, soul rise like the moon
I am alive, perspective turning soon
I praise each breath He lends me, day by day by day
I am alive by the grace He offers me today
I am amazed that He's aware of me
I am amazed to approach Him prayerfully
How painfully He loved me, oh how painfully
I am amazed at His tender mercies over me



perfect love, purest love 
breaking through my anguish 
precious love, endless love 
his love never fails me
he leads my heart when my eyes can't see
when my soul is lost he carries me
he comforts me in all my pain
and so i trust in his perfect love

perfect love, surest love
grace beyond my failings
deepest love, truest love
strong enough to save me
he leads my heart when my eyes can't see
when my soul is lost he carries me
he comforts me in all my pain
and so i trust in his perfect love

it calms my fears and peace breathes through me
he moves me
and he knows my heart even when i don't
he reaches me when i need him most
he rescues me from all my shame
he lifts me up in his perfect love                                     




-Irene
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             

Our March Babies





On March 16th we celebrated the 5th birthday of our  Michael Rollie aka Miggieboy. After so many hardships in terms of health, finances and spirituality, I got pregnant with this baby. My pregnancy with him was not difficult compared with the other two. Although, I was induced delivery with him, I will never forget that it was the easiest, most relaxing and simplest. I appreciate my mother-in-law for helping us out taking care of the older kids so we can go to the hospital and more so, I can get the rest I needed.

I will never forget how in-love I was with our baby Miggie. My arms were never tired holding him and I have enjoyed it so much! He is such a beautiful baby, so cuddly and precious!

Miggie is smart! He enjoys studying alphabets and numbers. He likes to draw, color and play guessing games. His personality is so cute! His wittiness and talking are so adorable! 

Being the youngest, he look  up to his older siblings. They are his best friends and source of strength. 

Miggie is a very helpful son. He likes helping me clean the house. With a rug in his hand, he works hard cleaning the walls, doors, drawers and every where his rug can touch. He likes helping daddy with his gardening and yard work activities, too. 

Truly, he brings joy to our family! And, we love him so dearly.






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We are blessed to be able to celebrate Emma Joy's 7th Birthday on March 21. My pregnancy with Emma was very difficult so as giving birth to her. I was not very healthy  and life was full of challenges. A month before my due date, Kevron lost his job. He was so depressed at that time. Loosing his job means, we also lost benefits like medical and dental insurances. I will never forget the look on his face, with teary eyes informing me of the sad news. We were forced to vacate the apartment where we are living and was given two weeks notice to leave and pay them the balance. 

We have seen during this time of hardship, the hand of the Lord in helping our family cope with the immediate needs. We received help from both our families. My Mom sent us money so we can pay the apartment. Then we moved to Kev's family back in Roy. The Lord moves in mysterious ways. Kevron was contacted by a company in Turkey and offered him a contract work with them. Sometimes, life brings us surprises when we least expected them. The idea of going to the Philippines came to our minds. We thought that it is a good idea to have this baby girl there since medical care in the Philippines is inexpensive compared here in America. More importantly, we can have a reunion with my family there. So, we did the necessary steps to make this happen. Things worked out for us.

We flew to the Philippines and was reunited with my family. I missed them a lot! It was sad and lonely being away from them. Life's been very tiring and stressful. However, I did my best to find joy along the way. I found so much comfort, peace and strength from the scriptures. 

I was induced with Emma's delivery because my water was very low. This time, I'm doing it all natural. I struggled so much during labor. I've been doing different positions so to ease the pains. I've been moving and moving around, calling Heavenly Father for help... until I started to bleed and then I was taken to the delivery room. After delivering Emma, I did not know what else happened because I passed out. 

It's been seven years but I am blessed to have this sweet girl. She gives you the tightest hugs, sweetest compliments and kindest words. I admire her enthusiasm and hard work for school activities. I admire her initiative to clean and organize her bedroom. I appreciate her obedience to our house rules. I'm grateful for her helps in cooking and table preparations. She is smart and active!

Emma is a blessing to our family! And we absolutely love her!


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-Irene